Wedding on the 30th of September 2023

I did get an invitation to a wedding in September 30th (soon after my birthday!) When I think right now that the wedding is in five months time, I get the feeling, five months is a long time. But once we get real close to the date, I’ll probably think, that the time passed too quickly! 🙂 Anyhow, I have now about five months to look for a formal dress or cocktail dress, and some good shoes as well! 🙂

What’s so good of being on your own most of the time? A few hours all by yourself, can sometimes feel like an eternity. But when you spend just as many hours in good company, then it feels like the time passes very quickly. 🙂

I often mentioned my neighbours, for naturally since they live so close to me, I see and talk to them more often than this is the case with any of my family, for my family just does not live that close to me.

Also, since my husband’s passing there is hardly any opportunity to see in real life any of the mutual blogger friends we used to have within a reasonable travelling distance. I do like online converstions. For sure, they can be extremely stimulating. And this is good. But do we not need also stimulating conversations with people who sit right next to us, and maybe share a meal with us? However, I reckon, some contact on the internet is better then no contact at all. 🙂

It seems to me most elderly widows and other elderly women have, more or less, no choice but to live on their own. Family members might perhaps live close enough. However family members, when they are still socially active, choose most often to lead their own lives, except for those times when some age care needs to be given.

I deliberately was talking just about elderly women. I am of the opnion that the way elderly single men live, is usually of their own choosing! They can choose to remain living on their own, but just as well they do always have the choice to look for a younger companion. Whereas if a woman past the age of 70 or so looks for a companion of the opposite sex, it is seen as something that is not natural at all. Old chucks are just old chucks, and that is it. There was even a time, when a woman was not married by age 30, she was very unlikely to ever find a husband! 🙂

What is wrong with old chucks not being able to have regular male companionship any more? There is nothing wrong with it, is there? After all, they had their time with the opposite sex, when they were younger. They could then choose to have a good time, couldn’t they? 🙂

Most old chucks claim they do not want any more male partners. A few old women that are still married, and maybe still enjoying a married life, may be the exception. But once their partner is gone, that’s it.

Well, what has all this got to do with the above wedding invitation? I mean shouldn’t I, an old chuck who’s to be 89 next September, shouldn’t I be happy and grateful that I still get invitations like this?

It is indeed something very special for me, that I’ll probably be still around to enjoy all the wedding celebrations with a lot of my family, and quite a few other people as well! 🙂

A lot of single elderly men are happy to live on their own, which may be more or less by choice. However, I feel many elderly women live on their own, because mostly they do not have a choice at all because of the way society is structured, and because of the way elderly men feel about elderly women.

The following is about the wedding. The invitations were sent out online:


3:00pm – 4:00pm


In front of the heritage building

Attire: Formal/cocktail

The Sebel Harbourside Kiama

2 Minnamurra St, Kiama NSW 2533, Australia

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5:30pm – 6:00pm

Pre Dinner Drinks

Heritage Verandah

6:00pm – 11:30pm


Marquee (behind heritage building)

Attire: Formal/cocktail

Published by auntyuta

Auntie, Sister. Grandmother, Great-Grandmother, Mother and Wife of German Descent I've lived in Australia since 1959 together with my husband Peter. We have four children, eight grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. I started blogging because I wanted to publish some of my childhood memories. I am blogging now also some of my other memories. I like to publish some photos too as well as a little bit of a diary from the present time. Occasionally I publish a story with a bit of fiction in it. Peter, my husband, is publishing some of his stories under

4 thoughts on “Wedding on the 30th of September 2023

  1. I am sorry, I do feel rather depressed at the moment. Nobody can convince me, that my life is still worth living. There is no hope for a passionate life. How can a life without passion be worth living? I don’t understand this. Yes, I love food, I love cooking, I love music, I love dancing, I love talking, I love writing, I love reading. I love meditating, I love walking, I love getting warmed by the sun, I love a lot of things. I love family meetings and meeting friends. I just do not love to spend 99% of the time all by myself without a male companion, that I can relate to. I am sure, this is not a life that I am looking forward to live for the rest of my life. I don’t want to be pitied, just because I have to live without my husband since he passed away. Why can I not be left in peace and pass away too? Please, please, do not try to talk me into it to want to go on living, living this life, that is really not a full life anymore. Living for whom? For myself? No, thank you. I am grateful for the good life, that I’ve had. But now I just would see dying as a wonderful relief from the pain of loneliness.

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